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OLDER MEN, HAVE GREAT SEX AGAIN!

                                            INTRODUCTION

I’m writing this post because sex at its best can be the physical manifestation of love and is therefore important to a couple’s pleasure and the strengthening of their pair-bond.  In addition, great sex can overcome many hard feelings, resentments, and misunderstandings that inevitably arise in a relationship/marriage.  There’s nothing as wonderful as making love with someone you love.  As one ages, however, making love usually becomes more difficult.

What makes me qualified to write on this subject?  I’ve read dozens of books, off and on, on sex, love, relationships, and marriage for 61 years, trying new things that I read about.  In addition, I have 54 years of experience with two marriages and a few girlfriends, and especially after having messed up my first marriage, had a keen desire to excel at making a woman feel loved.  Finally, about ten years ago I found a fascinating little red book that told me something intriguing than I previously had not read much about.  That book, How to Satisfy a Woman Every Time, by Naura Hayden, described in detail how to physically tease a woman to turn her on, and satisfy her.  With the combination of my decades of experience and reading, I consequently had the best sex I’ve ever had, although I was over 70 years-old…the one I loved felt thoroughly loved.

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PREPARATION: If you’re not married and meet someone that you really like, get to know well and trust, and you both feel that you want to take your  relationship to the next level, alcohol will lessen inhibitions as you get started, so a glass or two of wine is a good way to begin (too much alcohol, however, lowers libido).  A safe and private location, romantic music, candles in a darkened room, and you’re on the way to setting the mood.  If you’re married or not but over about 45-50 years-old, you probably will need either 50 or 100 mg of Viagra, (or the appropriate dosage of Levitra or Cialis), the generic form of which (Sildenafil) men with Erectile Dysfunction (ED) may buy inexpensively…$100 for 50 20-mg tablets (regular price  of Viagra is about $50/one 100mg pill) from some Urologists’ offices or a mail-order pharmacy in North Carolina, Marley Drug ( 336-771-7672; www.marleydrug.com).  Viagra begins working in about an hour on a full stomach, 15 minutes on an empty stomach.  Women over 50 or 60 may need a lubricant to make intercourse possible (google Sinclair Institute, which has lubricants that are compatible with sex toys).  Lubrication should be applied, as needed, to the penis, vibrator, dildo, etc. during lovemaking.  If the woman is fertile, decide in advance the birth control you plan to use.  Coitus Interruptus, as well as the Rhythm Method are unreliable in preventing pregnancy.  If the woman is well past menopause (menopause is usually about age 52), of course there’s no need for birth control, though you still need to be concerned about the 30 Sexually-Transmitted- Diseases (STDs).  If you’re a man under about 40, you may need to use a condom to help dull the sensation and therefore help delay your orgasm (as well as prevent pregnancy).  A numbing cream spread on the penis will also help delay orgasm and therefore one can maintain an erection and lengthen the time that you’re pleasuring your partner.  Older men, because premature ejaculation usually is no longer a problem, should be able to maintain an erection, with Viagra, Levitra, or Cialis for as long as the woman wants to have coitus.

Testosterone is the hormone that stimultes sexual desire in both men and women, though women need much less of it.  As a man ages, however, some of his Testosterone is converted by his body into Estradiol, a form of Estrogen, which accounts for older men getting “man boobs.” Prescription Testosterone, in its many forms, can be very expensive.  A Compounding Pharmacy can make the cream form of it for about a tenth of the price.  In addition, there are over-the-counter supplements that stimulate the body to increase production of Testosterone.  The Life Extension Foundation (LEF.org) sells “Super Miraforte” which really works and has the added benefit of suppressing the conversion of Testosterone into Estradiol.

GETTING STARTED: We looked at making prior arrangements, now let’s consider technique.  First, it’s important to know that it takes a woman much longer than a man to get physically and emotionally aroused.  Young men take about 60 seconds, young women a minimum of 20 minutes of foreplay (kissing, petting, massage, sweet words, etc.).  Older folks take longer.  Start with kissing and necking and perhaps massage.  Then proceed to the biggest foreplay turn-on that most women enjoy, cunnilingus.  There is no taste or smell around the clitoris.  Meanwhile, also gently fondle and kiss your loved one’s breasts, teasing her by circling just outside the areolas.

(WARNING: THIS SECTION IS SEXUALLY EXPLICIT)

 WHEN IT’S TIME: You know it’s time when your loved one is turned on if she asks you to get on with it it.  Now it’s time to go back to that little red book by Naura Hayden on how to satisfy a woman that I mentioned in the introduction to this article…you need to physically tease her.  If you decided on starting with the “Missionary” position, put the head of your penis at the entrance to your loved one’s vagina and slightly insert it and stay there while kissing her.  When she tells you to get on with it, insert your penis slowly about a 1/4-1/2 inch, and then pull it mostly out.  Repeat again and again.  Then go in slowly about an inch and pull it mostly out.  Repeat again and again.  Then 1 1/2 inches, again and again. By this time your loved-one should be really encouraging you.  At some point, especially if she starts to orgasm, slowly go in all the way, but, as taken from another love book, do so in a pattern, so as to maximize her pleasure.  For example, on the first stroke, go in all of the way, then go in half the way on the second, third, and fourth strokes.  On the fifth, go in all of the way again.  Vary the pattern occasionally.  Continue until your loved one is satisfied.  If you’re under 25, you may not be able to last that long without ejaculating, which will consequently usually kill your erection. Not to worry, if she hasn’t had her orgasm yet, you can always satisfy her with cunnilingus.

(WARNING: THIS SECTION IS SEXUALLY EXPLICIT)

KEEP THINGS INTERESTING: There are dozens of positions. each of which has its advantages and drawbacks.  For example, rear-entry requires a long penis (or a strap-on hollow penis).  Face-to face positions, like the “Cowgirl”, free up a man’s hands to fondle breasts and squeeze a woman’s “love handles,” her buttocks.  The book,  The Joy of Sex, depicts many sexual positionsIf you are more adventuresome,  Sinclair Institute sells a DVD that depicts couples demonstrating the basic positions.  It’s called “The Art of Sexual Positions.”

Lovemaking is so much fun that it’s hard to stop.  Let your loved one be your guide.  I prefer modified all-nighters: you make love, you go to sleep, you wake up (for whatever reason) and make love again.  You repeat all night until you’re both exhausted or it gets light out and the Viagra/Levitra/Cialis wears off.  Your girlfriend/wife knows that she’s been loved and you feel great having done the loving.  Of course, not every encounter will be a marathon…”quickies” have their place, as does showing your genuine affection by simply holding, hugging, squeezing and kissing.

CONCLUSION   

Making love and being in love is one of the greatest feelings in the world.  Although this article was embarrassing for me to publish, my using only medical and scientific terms for body parts and techniques lessened my embarrassment….you can always Google or use a dictionary for the terms you may not be familiar with.  I believe that two people in love is so wonderful that I felt compelled to write and contribute whatever I could to help maintain and enhance that love despite how the ravages of old age interfere.  Finally, let me leave you with his thought taken from one of my love books: “men need to be needed, women need to be cherished.”  Cherish your loved-one and make her feel loved, both emotionally and physically.

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PS: check out my article on this blog (www.MikeRussoExpose.com), entitled “Improving Communications in Relationships & Marriage” for gems of wisdom taken from a dozen love and relationship books.  That post aims to foster good communications by a couple, to not only heighten their love-life, but also to reduce the likelihood of eventual break-up/divorce.

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